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Éros du type de Centocelle dit Éros Farnèse, provenant de la collection Farnese (Greco-Roman Antiquity). By courtesy of the Musée national archéologique de Naples.

Love is not taking the other for granted.

Love is not assuming to totally know the other.

Love is learning of the other, day by day, as if the other were a stranger.

Love is the exclusion of the egocentric pronouns: ‘I,’ ‘me,’ and ‘mine’ from its vocabulary.

Love is the inclusion of the altruistic pronouns: ‘us,’ ‘we,’ and ‘ours’ in its vocabulary.

Love in not betraying the other by marital infidelity.

Love is not hurting the other, either by word or deed.

Love is acknowledging what has been done cannot be undone and, that injuries cannot be erased by the word ‘sorry’.

Love has the capacity and strength (ἀρετή) to forgive, as well as the common sense (κοινὴ αἲσθησις) not to forget.

Love is acknowledging that: wounds from deeds heal but wounds from injurious words – even a single syllable – may linger for many years.

Love means love of God for humankind, or humankind for God. (ἀγάπη).

Love means brotherly love (φιλία).

Love means familial love (στοργή).

Love means the ‘desire,’ or aesthetic aspirations of love (ερως), differentiating it from the lecherous or salacious lusts of the flesh (πορνογράφος).

Love is evasive of specific language.

Love has its own language in the archetypes.

Love’s archetypes are non-specific symbols.


French composer and lyricist, Michel Emer, had an interesting perspective about love, which he wrote about in his song, “L’amour ne s’explique pas! I include it below (in part):

“L’amour ne s’explique pas! C’est une chose comme ça! Qui vient on ne sait d’où Et vous prend tout à coup”.

“Love can’t be explained. It comes, just like that, from where no one knows and suddenly it takes hold”.